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  1. Oh, Susan. This was great. I could leave a War and Peace-length comment, but I’ll spare you my ramblings…I’ll just say that I’m not one who’s cut out to homeschool my kids, either, not that I’m against it — I just don’t think I’m that mom, too. The one that’s got me nervous as hell, though, is #5. As much as Scotty wears me out during the day, the mere *thought* of sending him off induces a huge lump in my throat. Excuse me, I need to go find a tissue…

  2. Hilarious post. Loved the picture of the schoolhouse!
    I was a homeschool Mom out of necessity in the beginning, not from a desire, but I ended up liking it. That said, it was at first A LOT OF WORK. We were on a sailboat out of the US, so we didn’t have any “rules” to follow. We made up our own. We spent more time on “field trips” and less time structured learning. I did it all myself after I found my husband checking second grade math with a calculator! Bottom line, we had to do it, I ended up liking it, but it’s also nice to let the professionals do it!

    • Susan Maccarelli

      Wow! If I were homeschooling on a boat, I would be doing more puking than teaching sadly. That is a wild story!

  3. Girl. You are a kindred spirit. I don’t have the exact same reasons (but def. #5 and parts of #1). But I feel pretty much the same. Homeschool moms rock my socks off, but it is NOT FOR ME. AT. ALL. <3

  4. haha! I commend those who have the patience and skill to homeschool their kid, but right now, I do not posses such prowess.. that said, i totally get your points!

  5. 🙂 This post made me smile! My husband home-schooled our girls for one year, and he really enjoyed it and they really needed it (he was recovering from a life-threatening bout with cancer). Our girls NEEDED school (although they always went to small private schools).

  6. Popping over from Courtney’s Liebster award. I’m so glad she nominated you — you’ve earned yourself a new reader. 😉 Feel free to pop by TMM!

    I totally hear you. I have friends all over the place who are or are planning on homeschooling their little ones, and I just… can’t. Mostly for reasons you posted. While I think I may be willing to learn what Tycho needs to learn, I’m pretty sure I’d cap out around 6th grade, especially at the pace these kids are learning stuff in public school. Maybe even earlier in math and science. I’m just not a very intelligent person when it comes to those subjects, ha!

    Oh, and despite the fact that I work outside the home, I’m looking forward to kindergarten, too. Free “daycare”, at least comparatively! 😉

  7. marcie maccarelli

    This sounds more like it was written by my long lost twin than the wide of my 2nd cousin, once removed. Lol I agree with you on every point and even though I come from a family full of teachers, I keep secretly wishing someone would pop in & teach the baby to speak (both English & Spanish would be nice), potty train her, etc. Just having her was a crazy accomplishment / leap of faith for me as I’ve never so much as babysat before she came along. I’d love to be the cooking organic from scatch mom who is the master of her pinterest domain & has the desire & skill to homeschool but alas my bachelor’s degree in theatre only enables me to act my way thru being the most introductory level of mom. I think I would need to go back for my master’s degree in mom-ing if I wanted to attempt more than the basics.

  8. All the homeschoolers make it sounds so good. Plus, I actually enjoyed teaching elementary school back in the day (well, the parts that would be involved in homeschooling). And yet, I can’t wait for my youngest to be in school full time next year! #typeaparent

  9. Hi! I came over from the Type-A Parent link-up. I’m a homeschooling mom, and I loved this post! It’s both hilarious and heartfelt. Thanks for a great read! I shared your link on Twitter. 🙂

    Blessings,
    Angela

  10. I believe I do not homeschool to keep my sanity, but as there is not another kid on this street to play with I would also end up with the job of part-time play-date forever. There are simply not enough hours in the day nor a mommy-vodka bottle big enough to keep me in the game.

  11. I completely relate to this. I love my kids. But I can’t be around them 24/7. I’m a better parent when I get a break from them. If they weren’t thriving in school, then I’d of course consider it, but the truth is, I would be a terrible teacher to them. My twins are in kinder and my youngest is 4, and I have the hardest time handling them just during homework time.

  12. I am so not homeschool material. You have to have patience for that. I have exactly none. And you have to be organized. I can just see myself coming to the end of the day and the realization that my kids are yet another day behind on their workbooks. That can add up to whole school years before too long.

  13. Rachel G

    I think the culture you’re surrounded by helps determine whether you perceive homeschooling as normal or not. I was homeschooled (back when it was weird), and currently 3 of my aunts homeschool their kids. My husband says that I was his first-ever encounter with someone who was homeschooled and he found that very strange. We do plan to carry on homeschooling to another generation, but that’s because I am that nerd who likes learning and teaching…and although I enjoyed college very much, the whole sitting in class for hours at a time and having to learn at the same pace as everyone else did feel like jail. I like freedom, perhaps a little too much.

  14. I’m with you here. I couldn’t imagine being EVERYTHING to my daughter. I would not make a good teacher, principal or peer for her. I have seen moms homeschool their kids successfully and some not so successfully. Maybe I’m evil, but I don’t feel a drop of guilt for sending my kid to school.

  15. A little late in finding your post, but it is refreshing to hear from people who know themselves well enough to realize homeschooling is not for them. I know some homeschoolers think the lack of patience, organizational skills, and not wanting to be with your kids 24/7 is a cop out, but i dont think so. I have been a homeschooling mom for 18 years. This is my last because i am tired so im sending my kids to.school.

    • Susan Maccarelli

      18 years deserves a medal and i think it can be a great alternative for kids when they have a mom who is so dedicated – I’m just not that mom – ha! It sounds like you have one going to school now, is that right? It will be really interesting to observe the differences. I would probably be a control freak if I were in your position and having to give education control to someone else after all this time. You should write a book on how your homeschooled experienced education vs. non-homeschooled!

  16. As a veteran teacher, I never expected to be one of the homeschooling mamas, but I drank the Kool Aide and have been doing it since March.

    I would be lying if I said it was easy or fun-loving every day. It can be hard, really hard; however, for my son right now, it’s good.

    Enjoyed your piece 🙂

  17. Jill

    I love this! You are definitely not alone. I could never do it, either. Because I would suck at it and I don’t want to. I count the days until I can give up my “day job” and be a SAHM but I know without a doubt I will embrace the moment when I can take them to the school bus. I enjoyed the read! I know it’s been awhile since this was published but I just saw it on Bon Bon Break today!

    • Susan Maccarelli

      Thanks! Yep, BonBon resurrected it for me in honor of school starting I think. I have been waiting for preschool to start since the day I gave birth!

  18. I won’t be ready to see my little guy go, but I’ve also been looking forward to kindergarten since before baby was born. Homeschooling blogs have given me a new perspective (aka all homeschool kids aren’t extremely socially awkward), but it is definitely not for me.

  19. #5 speaks to me oh so much. I have 1 sister and 2 sisters-in-law who all home school. I briefly considered it when I only had one child and she was just 1 year old, and the actual schooling part was completely theoretical. Now? That child starts first grade at our public school in 2 weeks and the twins start preschool shortly after. Three mornings a week all to myself! Mama’s getting a haircut! Also, I’m just too lazy and unorganized to be a good homeschooler.

  20. S

    Stumbled across your blog after looking for a meme about raising kids/pecked to death by chickens because God knows I’ve said it a million times this week. Love this. I WAS homeschooled.. Even before it was legal. I’ve threatened to homeschool my kids a million times, but I’ve realized I weld the threat as a sort of punishment/ penance thing. I’ve bought books.. I’ve looked at curriculum.. And at the end of the day, I loathe it just as much as I did when I was in school. Most of my friends homeschool, and there’s a part of me who will always feel inadequate, but at the end of the day, for the woman who has never said CAN’T.. I know my limitations..

    • Susan Maccarelli

      Sounds like we are kindred spirits! I remember thinking when I wrote this, that people might be offended, but I don’t think I ever got any negative comments. There are lots of us out there!

  21. Ashley

    Love this! I have 3 kids and my oldest is 4. I have been planning on homeschooling for a few years now but recently I’m really starting to think about about it more and I’m like, NOPE, nevermind…can’t wait for kindergarten haha!

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