My husband used to make suggestions to me starting out with the line ‘You know what your problem is?…’.
I know ladies, let me give you a minute.
He would then go on to inform me of my problem as well as the proper solution. As you can imagine, I was enormously grateful to have this wisdom bestowed upon me from such a wise and benevolent oracle.
Or maybe my head spun around on its axis three to five times uncontrollably followed by laser beams of fire shooting out of my eyes directly into his heart. Needless to say the ‘suggestions’ were never absorbed well by me.
I quickly informed him that it might not be the best way to start a conversation with me (or anyone with ears, or even newts, who don’t have ears but have other means of hearing) and we’ve since developed a slightly more constructive dialogue around giving and receiving suggestions (between us as well as when we are conversing with newts).