1. Jo

    My advice would be to wait a few more years. She’s obviously been exposed to the idea of divorce, but how would it benefit her to know you are re-married? I was “lucky”. Matt was 16 when we started our divorce. Like you, we are all much happier now.

  2. Both my husband and I were married before as well. Neither of us had children with our ex-spouses. When my boys were little, I think this same fear gripped me – how would we tell them we were married to other people once upon a time? So I told my boys when they were VERY young. Like 3 and 6 years old. So they’ve grown up knowing it, but didn’t really care about it much until they were old enough to understand it. They sometimes ask questions about it (the best was when my younger son asked randomly in the car one day, “So Mom, exactly why did you kick your first husband to the curb?”). It’s provided a lot of fodder for family conversation. My husband and I, although 7 years apart in age, both married our high school sweethearts at the age of 25 and we were divorced by 29. Then we got married to each other when I was 30 and he was 37. Our mantra to our boys is, “Do. Not. Marry. Your. First. Girlfriend.” Loved this post, Susan!

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