1. Jo

    In defense of your mother, she is and always has been very creative in getting you and your sister interested in non-store-purchased toys. They worked just as well and actually let you use your imagination.

    Having said that, I also was able to “entertain” my son with very little effort. We played a LOT of board games ( just him and I, dad was above such things!), Uno, etc. He had toys, probably too many, but I never interfered with his creativity unless he was going to hurt himself. ( Such as the time said “dad” (and ex-husband) was not watching him and he proceeded to HANG himself with a rope and tree. THANK GOD it was tied around his wrist and not his neck. Leave him alone with his father??? Not likely.

  2. Comedic and insightful. For me the sentence “The kind of people who care if you have a playroom are not people I like very much” sums up the colorful and instructive nature of your words. Thanks for sharing. By the way, what are your thoughts about a “Man Cave”?

    • Susan Maccarelli

      Ahhh the man cave. I think that 90% of the time the man cave is full of shit. I’m sure I’ve offended someoene. Why engineer a room specifically to get away from your family? I’m all for hobbies and watching sports, video games etc., but why does it have to be so blatently separate? My husband agrees. I should do a post about it. Loved your post about ignorance today by the way. Your thoughts on the man cave?

  3. We have a playroom (which is actually our loft) but you’re right. Toys NEVER stay there and through the years, I’ve realized it’s just the natural thing to do and accept. Cleanliness is great, and I love LOVE organizing. But when the desire for ‘perfection’ impedes our children’s childhood and sense of wonder and spontaneity, then it’s just unnatural and dysfunctional. I wonder how much therapy Martha Stewart’s daughter had to go through? 😉

  4. Haha, I wanted a playroom when we moved last year, and I have discovered that what you’re saying is really mostly true! I still clean up toys strewn all over the house. I will say, though, that my son is happily playing in the playroom right now while I get a little bit of work done. That’s worth it to me, although it probably could have happened in any room! #typeaparent

  5. Your post is such a breath of fresh air – thank you!!! Holy crap it made me laugh and laugh because it’s so easy to get caught up in the pin worthy rooms and all the bs. My whole house is a playroom and like you said, it’s not about the toys. It’s taking imagination to the next level, my daughter’s true love is exploring the yard and organizing shelves (she’s almost 2). She is like my cat, would rather have the bow on the pretty package versus the overly priced toy inside the wrapping. I love your words because they ring true!

    • Susan Maccarelli

      Yay! It’s easy for me to throw shade at the playroom-havers since I am one myself, but it does seem silly now that I insisted on having it.

  6. Ha! We have a playroom. It’s a mess, I think they mostly go in there to dump out all the toys and then leave. My five year old almost never plays in there unless other kids are over. I will say, it is great for when the older kids have sleep overs. Our bedrooms were our “playrooms” growing up. And I LIVED outside. I have to kick my kids out of the house to go play in nature all the time and it drives me crazy that they don’t instinctively want to do that! I must confess, I would love a “woman cave.” But I don’t even know if I would call it that. I just want a room with books shelves to the ceiling and a comfy chair and acoustically sealed from the rest of the house. It will never happen, but it’s my mental “happy place.”

  7. “Create a soothing environment” haha. You almost had me there! I agree wholeheartedly. Let’s keep it simple. Why does every toy have to satisfy each sense? Music, lights, tactile satisfaction. I remember playing with a shoebox when I was a kid. Kids today (shakes fist) and another thing, get off of my lawn, whippersnappers!!

    • Susan Maccarelli

      @Liz – I said to my husband before I published “does this sound too i-walked-to-school-10-miles-uphill-both-ways-in-the-snow?”

  8. I really really REALLY wanted our finished basement to be a playroom. When my son turned 5 or 6 I was like, “Welp! He can hang out alone down there with all his toys! And there’s a TV and the piano is down there and everything!”

    Think he’s gone down there once? Nope.

  9. Our play room is our finished basement. We only play down there a couple times a week. So, I’ve been toying (see what I did there) with bringing more stuff upstairs. But not, you know, the ones made of a million little pieces that just get dumped.

  10. Ahhh! Just finished our playroom 🙂 And I still love it, but I’ve only had it for a week and I only have one toddler who still can’t carry enough items in his little paws to dump them all around the house. I’ll just enjoy looking at the niceness of it while it lasts 🙂

  11. Vespa

    Your posts make me feel like deleting my Pinterests posts, and only reposting yours! I’ve spent too many hours worrying that my children are deprived because we have very little space and very little money. I have spent plenty of time envying the Pinterest mommies, and wishing I wasn’t so stressed from all of the pressure of being a low income family. Maybe then I could spend more time facilitating ‘sensory experiences’ or one of the other activities that we are pushed to believe will make our children functioning human beings. Your posts remind me that so much of what we are told as mother’s makes us feel inadequate. Thank you! I need the hilarity you provide!

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