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    • Susan Maccarelli

      Oh good! I thought I might be in for it with my boy. We’ll see. I like the term ‘teaching moment!’

  1. OMG. That was bad! As a mom of boys, sorry to say there’s a lot of touching in front that goes on, regardless of age. However, inside the pants is a different story! Gross.

  2. You are too funny, and a trooper! I can just picture you and your Mom! Neither of my boys did/do this. One is 13 so I think we’re past the hands-down-pants-stage with him (although I give a good loud knock before entering his bedroom ~ wink! ), and my 5.5 year old hasn’t shown any signs of HH… at least not yet.

    I would be equally as horrified if I were you! Sounds like HH needs a good bath and a talking to…

    Thanks for the giggle. Julia 🙂

  3. Yuck!! I’m not sure I would’ve gone full blown Olivia Pope but I think I would have had to something when the frog came out OR made an early exit :0 !!! Ugh…LOL. Love your nicknames for this kid though …Typhoid Harry LMBO

    • Susan Maccarelli

      MrsTee – I should have escaped before the frog, but i froze under the insanity of it all. It is 5 days later and my daughter has not shown any ill effects yet…

  4. I’m not gonna lie here, moms who don’t pay attention to their kids need to hire a nanny. Honestly, there is no excuse to taking your kids out in public and not monitoring them. The worst is when the moms all sit in a circle and are so crazy into their own convo, they completely forget their kid is even around. I’m not asking for perfection, here…..I’m asking for just a wee bit of, oh, I don’t know, parenting.

    I love, love, love your writing style and have bookmarked your blog to my “tribe” folder. Excited to read more!

    • Susan Maccarelli

      Aww thanks for the comment! I am still thinking back to this incident and can’t believe it. I think she was uncomfortable but didn’t know how to address it without the kid making a scene or had tried addressing it before and he had gone ape doodoo on her maybe, and thus she ignored it. Facinating, yet heebie jeebie inducing…

    • Susan Maccarelli

      I have a nephew on the spectrum, and am very sensitive to mothers dealing with issues around that in terms of public behavior. I NEVER judge if that could even remotely be the case. I observed this kid for an hour and there was absolutely no sign of anything that would make me think that, however, there could always be something I am unaware of (termites down there maybe? :o), so I probably shouldn’t judge…but I couldn’t help myself!

      • This is exactly what stops me judging! I’ve been the parent of “the handful of a child” and I know sometimes people are looking at me thinking, “Why doesn’t she DO SOMETHING??” and the answer is: “It’s on my list. But it’s number 156. I expect to get down to it in a few years’ time.”

        Luckily for me it’s never been bottom-picking. (Nose picking, but not bottom-picking.)

        • Susan Maccarelli

          My nephew is autistic, so I get the not judging the handful child. She was in a play studio with one kid where every parent was just watching their kid, so she didn’t seem otherwise occupied and after observing him for an hour, it didn’t seem like he had any special needs. Except the need to wash his hands. That said, I do try to remember that you never know the whole story, so who knows…

          • I get the impression that if we met in person you wouldn’t come across as overly judgemental. 🙂 I think we all do it sometimes, rightly or wrongly.

            I have been in the same situation at play areas where I’m just watching my child and they’re being kind of annoying and I’m not doing anything about it. My child looks normal as well. What I see that nobody else sees is what he’s *not* doing that day.

            One thing I’ve taken to doing more recently when I feel people are starting to glare in such a situation is I pipe up and tell my child how proud I am of the way he’s behaving, making sure that others can hear me. I’ve found this works well. I guess it let people know that although I’m not “doing anything” I am, in fact, monitoring my child’s behaviour, and also gives them the idea that even though he’s doing something that’s not quite right, there is a worse alternative and maybe we all just need to be happy for a moment and let the rest go!

            Since I started doing this rather than trying to immediately correct the next thing “on my list” his behaviour has improved dramatically. Sometimes kids/families with difficulties really need to win a few before they start trying to move on to the next thing.

  5. Kallie

    I’m sorry, but you are Judge Judgerson. Nothing better to do than blog about this? I’m not sure you’re being truthful when you say you try not to judge other Mums. It’s a hard job. Maybe she didn’t want to shame him. It’s gross. We get it. Have some compassion though, maybe she’s trying her best, but doesn’t know what to do or say to him. Your tone comes across as very judgmental.

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